To: Us Girls
We wrap ourselves around fairy tales, hoping and dreaming that our prince charming will come about, but in reality, we are only getting our hopes up and we all know it. A friend once told me, "90% of the male population thinks like this.. #1) Men love blowjobs #2) Men don't care if your Cumming (we could figure this one out.) #3) No women is "Worth" anything; there are always more fish in the sea #4) Guys don't care about your feelings, they are trying to get themselves off" I mean, if you think about this, there are probably more real statements about men but I only have four for right now and I believe this. You know why? This came from a good guy friend of mine who doesn't sugar coat things, who tells me how it is and will always tell me how a guy really thinks and in the end, he's right about everything.
What I am trying to say is, what's the point of giving our all to a guy who just wants all of that? When we want so much more than that. Stop watching One Tree Hill, where Nathan Scott, the bad boy of town, falls in love with the unpopular girl and he changes. That will NEVER happen, get it through that head of yours. That is called "Acting" and "Screen Writing". Stop watching Gossip Girl where Charles turns out to be the decent guy in the end and fights for the one he loves. That will never happen, or like all of the Nickolas Spark books/movies, yes he is a fantastic writer and the movies always turn into a tear jerker in the end... but will that ever happen to us? The billion girls in the planet who watch these movies or TV shows hoping and praying one day we will find a guy like Nathan Scott, or Charles, or the main actors in the Nickolas Spark movies, because in reality, we are not like a movie, this is the real world where the men want to get in your pants, tell you things that they know you want to hear, make you fall in love with them and then rip our hearts out and they go off to the next...
I'm not saying true love isn't out there, because I do have that hope inside my heart that there is suppose to be one man and one woman who was put on this earth to find each other and to fall in love, but at twenty years old, with all my other friends in serious relationships, having babies and getting married, well maybe its just not my time and its theirs. All I'm saying is, we shouldn't have to rush things or try to hold something together when we know its falling apart. We just need to start living day to day, and enjoying our life. You know, maybe when we stop looking and years from know or months or days from now, maybe that guy will appear when we least expect it. Just stop giving your heart away to someone who doesn't deserve it.
Tuesday, March 18, 2014
Thursday, March 6, 2014
You can "Want" a guy, but never "Need" a guy.
After a fight with a guy I care about last night, my friend and I went out to lunch today and she gave me some interesting advice, she told me "You can always want a guy Theresa, but never NEED a guy, don't put your whole universe around him, be independent." And you know, with this guy, I was putting my life on hold I felt like. Which I mean, I would do anything for him because he is a great guy, but I shouldn't put my whole world in his hands. I need to find who I am before I can find a good healthy relationship, because I don't even know who the hell I am right now.
So this topic, obviously, is You can "Want" a guy, but never "NEED" a guy.
Have you ever constantly thought about a guy? You wake up, you think of him. You're in class, and you think of him. You're eating, and you think of him. You're driving and you think of him. You are trying to fall asleep at night but can't because YOU ARE THINKING OF HIM. That's how I was. We shouldn't waste our whole day thinking about a guy 24/7 when in reality, they are hardly thinking of you. Guys brains don't function like us girls, a guy friend of mine who is a Marine, told me "Guys only think about one thing Theresa, sex. You girls might think you can change that, but you never can. Yeah, it sounds horrible and pathetic, but its the ugly truth. You may find a guy who just wants to have sex with only you, but he will never not want sex. That's just how we are." And he is right. We think we can change that one guy and make him love us just for us, but they will never not want sex. Its like their a horn dog 24/7, and we can't change that! And you know, that's just find. We shouldn't hate them for it, we just need to find a guy that can respect us enough not to just go out and have sex with every other girl out there. Girls, this is to you, we will NEVER change a guy but don't EVER change yourself FOR a guy. ever. Don't move for a guy. Don't change your appearance for a guy. Don't do anything for a guy, because the RIGHT guy will love you for you. I need to take may own advice because with the guy I like right now, has been broken before. And maybe he's just scared to fall for someone else, but I can't wait around and put my life on hold, even though I want to be with him but if he can't commit to 100% to me... I can't wait around.
And every girl should think that way too, because we wait around for a hopeless man who will never love us the way we love them.
So instead of chasing, and hoping to find that right guy, go out and have fun. The right guy will show up... one day.
- Theresa
So this topic, obviously, is You can "Want" a guy, but never "NEED" a guy.
Have you ever constantly thought about a guy? You wake up, you think of him. You're in class, and you think of him. You're eating, and you think of him. You're driving and you think of him. You are trying to fall asleep at night but can't because YOU ARE THINKING OF HIM. That's how I was. We shouldn't waste our whole day thinking about a guy 24/7 when in reality, they are hardly thinking of you. Guys brains don't function like us girls, a guy friend of mine who is a Marine, told me "Guys only think about one thing Theresa, sex. You girls might think you can change that, but you never can. Yeah, it sounds horrible and pathetic, but its the ugly truth. You may find a guy who just wants to have sex with only you, but he will never not want sex. That's just how we are." And he is right. We think we can change that one guy and make him love us just for us, but they will never not want sex. Its like their a horn dog 24/7, and we can't change that! And you know, that's just find. We shouldn't hate them for it, we just need to find a guy that can respect us enough not to just go out and have sex with every other girl out there. Girls, this is to you, we will NEVER change a guy but don't EVER change yourself FOR a guy. ever. Don't move for a guy. Don't change your appearance for a guy. Don't do anything for a guy, because the RIGHT guy will love you for you. I need to take may own advice because with the guy I like right now, has been broken before. And maybe he's just scared to fall for someone else, but I can't wait around and put my life on hold, even though I want to be with him but if he can't commit to 100% to me... I can't wait around.
And every girl should think that way too, because we wait around for a hopeless man who will never love us the way we love them.
So instead of chasing, and hoping to find that right guy, go out and have fun. The right guy will show up... one day.
- Theresa
Wednesday, March 5, 2014
Young, Wild and Free?
So first of all, I would just like to say, I'm not twenty yet... turn twenty May 27th of this year! Whoop! I wanted to start this blog to kind of get my mind to start thinking out loud again and not keep everything crammed up in there like always. I have other blogs, Life as a Teenager (which obviously I wont be one for much longer) and Dear Future Husband. So my very first topic that I want to get off my chest is... Young, Wild and Free?
To the people who get married at a young age, don't get offended!
I'm a sophomore in college and already two of my dear friends have gotten married. Out of high school about 1/2 of my graduating class has at least one kid, engaged, married or in a serious relationship and don't get me wrong. I would LOVE that, but why rush into things? So first topic is being young. When I always discuss about falling in love and having a family, my mother always tells me, "What's the rush Theresa? Are you wanting a divorce in the future because getting married this young is like signing the divorce papers already..." which I mean, can be true but want if the two of them are seriously madly in love? But what the hell is love now days? A married man hit on my the other day, and a older (divorced) man gave me his number in front of his 12 year old son, so please, if you know the true meaning of love, let me hear it because everyone that I know, has not proven me wrong. But, if I were to fall in love and I mean IN love, I would know, I would feel it because I am a women. Now men, always say "we are the confusing ones" but I on the other hand no exactly what I want, but no man believes that especially if they have been broken in the past which sucks because girls like "US" (the good ones that are left out there) are stuck alone because the guys are scared to fall for another girl that might eventually break their heart. Now, I would love to find that right guy right now, just because I can have all these years ahead of us, getting to know one another more and not have to rush into things. So when people say we are young... they can kiss my ads, because I feel this generation has grown up so quickly, that us 20 year olds are now known as "Old farts" to the kids. Lets do what we want to do. If we want to fall in love, go fall in love. If we get heartbroken, pick yourself off of that ground and go back out there. There is a man for each and everyone of us, he just needs to stick around long enough to see the true meaning of a "relationship" and instead of just thinking about sex all the damn time. DONT GIVE IT UP. (at least not yet...) speaking of, the guy I really really like did just text me... I take that back, GUYS ARE DOUCHE BAGS do not fall for their stupid shot that they put in your head because its all full of lies!
Wild. Everyone LOVES to be wild. I mean, I'm a red head and you know what they say about red heads, we love to have fun! But I'm not that crazy... anyways, going back up to the other topic above, we are young so why not have fun while we can? My mom always tells me her stories of when she was younger and all the fun she had and how she doesn't regret a thing. Well, I don't want to regret anything that I do. My mom didn't get married until she was 27 I believe, and didn't have me until she was 28. She experienced her life before she settled down, which I think was wise. Go out, explore, meet people, travel, do things you never thought you would do and most of all, enjoy the little things, enjoy life itself.
Free. We are all free in our own way, but my free, is being away from everyone, being away from the city and see the open outdoors and see life's beauty for what it truly is. Go find your free place and visit it once a month, you'll start thanking God he created such beauty and forget all the negativity that you have had in your life. Go try it.
To the people who get married at a young age, don't get offended!
I'm a sophomore in college and already two of my dear friends have gotten married. Out of high school about 1/2 of my graduating class has at least one kid, engaged, married or in a serious relationship and don't get me wrong. I would LOVE that, but why rush into things? So first topic is being young. When I always discuss about falling in love and having a family, my mother always tells me, "What's the rush Theresa? Are you wanting a divorce in the future because getting married this young is like signing the divorce papers already..." which I mean, can be true but want if the two of them are seriously madly in love? But what the hell is love now days? A married man hit on my the other day, and a older (divorced) man gave me his number in front of his 12 year old son, so please, if you know the true meaning of love, let me hear it because everyone that I know, has not proven me wrong. But, if I were to fall in love and I mean IN love, I would know, I would feel it because I am a women. Now men, always say "we are the confusing ones" but I on the other hand no exactly what I want, but no man believes that especially if they have been broken in the past which sucks because girls like "US" (the good ones that are left out there) are stuck alone because the guys are scared to fall for another girl that might eventually break their heart. Now, I would love to find that right guy right now, just because I can have all these years ahead of us, getting to know one another more and not have to rush into things. So when people say we are young... they can kiss my ads, because I feel this generation has grown up so quickly, that us 20 year olds are now known as "Old farts" to the kids. Lets do what we want to do. If we want to fall in love, go fall in love. If we get heartbroken, pick yourself off of that ground and go back out there. There is a man for each and everyone of us, he just needs to stick around long enough to see the true meaning of a "relationship" and instead of just thinking about sex all the damn time. DONT GIVE IT UP. (at least not yet...) speaking of, the guy I really really like did just text me... I take that back, GUYS ARE DOUCHE BAGS do not fall for their stupid shot that they put in your head because its all full of lies!
Wild. Everyone LOVES to be wild. I mean, I'm a red head and you know what they say about red heads, we love to have fun! But I'm not that crazy... anyways, going back up to the other topic above, we are young so why not have fun while we can? My mom always tells me her stories of when she was younger and all the fun she had and how she doesn't regret a thing. Well, I don't want to regret anything that I do. My mom didn't get married until she was 27 I believe, and didn't have me until she was 28. She experienced her life before she settled down, which I think was wise. Go out, explore, meet people, travel, do things you never thought you would do and most of all, enjoy the little things, enjoy life itself.
Free. We are all free in our own way, but my free, is being away from everyone, being away from the city and see the open outdoors and see life's beauty for what it truly is. Go find your free place and visit it once a month, you'll start thanking God he created such beauty and forget all the negativity that you have had in your life. Go try it.
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